Don’t Let Loneliness Make You Go Back

Loneliness can be loud. It whispers to you in the middle of the night, reminds you of familiar hands, and tries to convince you that going back is easier than being alone. But don’t mistake loneliness for love.

It’s easy to romanticize the past when you’re feeling empty. You start remembering the good times, the laughter, the way they once made you feel. But memory has a way of blurring the reality of why it ended. The pain, the disappointment, the broken trust those things didn’t disappear just because you miss them.

Going back for comfort isn’t the same as going back for love. Love is mutual, healthy, and full of growth. But going back just because you’re lonely? That’s settling for a temporary fix to a deeper need. It’s choosing what’s familiar over what’s right for you.

Loneliness is a season, not a life sentence. It’s an opportunity to sit with yourself, to heal, to learn how to love your own company. The right person someone who truly values you won’t require you to move backward. They’ll be in your future, not your past.

So when the loneliness creeps in, don’t let it convince you to reopen a door that was meant to stay closed. Sit with the discomfort, trust that better is coming, and remind yourself that your peace is worth more than temporary companionship.

You don’t need to go back. You need to move forward.

Title credit Jomanda C.