Jealousy: A Reflection of the Insecure, Not the Secure

Jealousy is one of those emotions people don’t like to admit to, but it creeps in when insecurity takes the wheel. It’s not about what someone else has its about what we think we lack.

I’ve never been the jealous type. Not because life handed me everything I wanted, but because I’ve always believed in my own power. I don’t need to envy anyone when I know I’m capable of creating my own blessings. That’s the difference between confidence and insecurity one fuels growth, and the other breeds resentment.

Jealousy in Relationships and Friendships

I’ve seen how jealousy destroys relationships, how it makes people suspicious, bitter, and even cruel. In friendships, it turns support into competition. Some people can’t be happy for you because they’re too busy wondering why it’s not them instead. But real ones? They clap for you because they know their time is coming too.

Jealousy as a Mirror

If jealousy creeps in, it’s a sign to look inward. What is it revealing about you? What fear, insecurity, or doubt is making you compare yourself to someone else? Instead of letting it fester, use it as motivation. If someone has what you want, let that be proof that it’s possible for you too.

Flipping the Script

Instead of asking, “Why not me?” try asking, “What can I do to get there?”Instead of hating, start learning. Instead of competing, start collaborating. Because at the end of the day, jealousy doesn’t hold them back—it holds youback.

And me? I’ll always choose growth over resentment. Because I know my light was never meant to be dimmed by someone else’s shine.