Outgrowing People: A Hard but Necessary Part of Growth

Outgrowing people something that’s not always easy to admit, but absolutely necessary for personal growth. As we evolve, our values, goals, and mindset shift, and sometimes, the people around us no longer fit into the new version of who we are becoming. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people or that we’re better than them it just means we’re growing in different directions. And that’s okay.

Growth Requires Alignment

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that as we grow, we need people who align with where we’re headed, not just where we’ve been. Some relationships serve a purpose for a season, but when they start to feel stagnant or even toxic it’s a sign that we’re holding onto something that no longer contributes to our growth.

And here’s the truth: it’s okay to let go.

We don’t have to keep relationships out of obligation or fear. We don’t have to shrink ourselves to fit into spaces we’ve outgrown. The more we hold onto what no longer serves us, the more we block the right connections from coming in.

The Guilt That Comes With It

Outgrowing people isn’t always easy. It can come with guilt, loneliness, and even self-doubt. We ask ourselves, Am I abandoning them? Am I being selfish? But staying in connections that no longer support our evolution only stunts our potential.

Holding on out of guilt isn’t love—it’s fear. And fear keeps us stuck